Doing it For the Boys!

Today I am the queen of procrastinate! So much to do, but so little enthusiasm to do it! So, I’m stealing a post idea. Well kind of. I had a flicker of guilt this morning when I read the most recent post at Starting Over at 24. If you haven’t already read it then head on over here as I’m giving you a 3 minute recess.

Woo, you came back!

So, let’s turn back time a little to a lovely young (oh to be young again *sigh*) Jen. In this scene I’m 16 years young to be precise!

When I was younger I had no trouble getting boys / boyfriends, but at 16 I discovered that wonder that was (no longer wondrous) Yahoo Chat (another OCD feature!), more for fun than dating to begin with! My first encounter (after numerous boys requesting cyber sex – I hope boys are more inventive for the current 16 year old girls out there!!) was with steb_16 / aka bballer_13 and I’m sure there was another name as well!!

Steb_16 = 17 years old, cute, blond (in really cute short curls), 6ft 9 (yes, I did mean 6ft 9 and not 5ft 9), as good a body as you can have 17 – he wasn’t a nasty little skinny awkward looking teenager by any means! Also, professional basketball player!

So anyway, we chatted for a month or so (which is a long time by the no standards of Match.com and whatnot where you could get yourself a date the following day these days)before meeting. He was a bit full on and actually told me he loved me before we met…but…despite this I continued to go out and party / drink / dance the night away and kissing boys was my speciality (I even went on an all girls holiday to Ibiza). Steb_16 was always a little quiet when I revealed my antics, but I never really got it. I was 16 and single and I assumed he was doing the same.

I’d never actually thought about it before but I do, having read SO24’s post, feel extremely guilty….well, for that situation anyway, Steb_16 was actually a class A A-hole so I don’t feel too bad. I’ll come back to him another day, the story gets long and complicated!

So, this is my apology post! I would like to apologise to all the boys / men who have fallen for a girl online (and I don't mean someone you just slept with, I mean properly fallen for!) and she has been mean in return! We do not do it on purpose and it’s not meant spitefully! It’s definitely not because we don’t like you! It’s like you’re living two separate lives, with two sets of friends and two sets or rules and until you actually meet in person there’s nothing to connect any of the “twos” apart from phone calls and emails and that gets a bit lonely.

My advice to you SO24 would be that one single kiss wont add up to the time you’ve spent getting to know *Bree and so you should try and take it in your stride – you’re well ahead of the kissing culprit when it comes to stealing her heart!